Comments on: should a man refuse to do all of the maintenance around the house? http://www.survivalistchronicles.com/06/should-a-man-refuse-to-do-all-of-the-maintenance-around-the-house/ Articles based around house and home Thu, 29 Jul 2010 16:44:14 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: percsrock2000 http://www.survivalistchronicles.com/06/should-a-man-refuse-to-do-all-of-the-maintenance-around-the-house/comment-page-1/#comment-1879 percsrock2000 Sat, 27 Feb 2010 22:10:15 +0000 http://www.survivalistchronicles.com/06/should-a-man-refuse-to-do-all-of-the-maintenance-around-the-house/#comment-1879 I think you should spend some time at my house.... I do all of the work, I shovel the snow, take care of the lawn including my garden, and do like 75% of the house work. Not to mention that when it comes to cars my husband doesn't know the first thing so that rests on my shoulders as well. Until you spend one day being in a woman's shoes, you have no right to *****!! Next time listen to your wife/girlfriend when she's got something to say I think you should spend some time at my house…. I do all of the work, I shovel the snow, take care of the lawn including my garden, and do like 75% of the house work. Not to mention that when it comes to cars my husband doesn’t know the first thing so that rests on my shoulders as well.
Until you spend one day being in a woman’s shoes, you have no right to *****!!
Next time listen to your wife/girlfriend when she’s got something to say

]]> By: Angelina A http://www.survivalistchronicles.com/06/should-a-man-refuse-to-do-all-of-the-maintenance-around-the-house/comment-page-1/#comment-1878 Angelina A Sat, 27 Feb 2010 18:19:06 +0000 http://www.survivalistchronicles.com/06/should-a-man-refuse-to-do-all-of-the-maintenance-around-the-house/#comment-1878 I dont agree with the 50/50 thing. Im a bit old fashioned and i know its rare. I would much rather do all the cleaning and cooking myself than to see my fiance try it and i have to go back over his work and finish it the way i like cuz im a neat freak and perfectionist. LOL! I prefer to do all the cooking and cleaning and let him do the trash, repairs, lawn, and all that other yucky stuff. I do however expect him to not just leave his clothes lying around and put them in the hamper or to leave his dish where ever he ate and i do expect him to help me carry the laudry basket when its too heavy to lift, but im sure he wont mind doing those things cuz thier common curtiousy. I dont agree with the 50/50 thing. Im a bit old fashioned and i know its rare. I would much rather do all the cleaning and cooking myself than to see my fiance try it and i have to go back over his work and finish it the way i like cuz im a neat freak and perfectionist. LOL! I prefer to do all the cooking and cleaning and let him do the trash, repairs, lawn, and all that other yucky stuff. I do however expect him to not just leave his clothes lying around and put them in the hamper or to leave his dish where ever he ate and i do expect him to help me carry the laudry basket when its too heavy to lift, but im sure he wont mind doing those things cuz thier common curtiousy.

]]> By: Julie http://www.survivalistchronicles.com/06/should-a-man-refuse-to-do-all-of-the-maintenance-around-the-house/comment-page-1/#comment-1877 Julie Thu, 25 Feb 2010 22:20:46 +0000 http://www.survivalistchronicles.com/06/should-a-man-refuse-to-do-all-of-the-maintenance-around-the-house/#comment-1877 I believe everything should be 50/50 no matter what it is. The only reason I dont fix cars is because I dont know how and my dad never showed me a thing. What the hell is so hard about mowing the lawn anyways? I always did the male things as well, along with everything else while he went out and came home at 1 am. He cried like a baby when I left, begging me back, til he found himself a new maid/slave. I believe everything should be 50/50 no matter what it is. The only reason I dont fix cars is because I dont know how and my dad never showed me a thing.

What the hell is so hard about mowing the lawn anyways? I always did the male things as well, along with everything else while he went out and came home at 1 am. He cried like a baby when I left, begging me back, til he found himself a new maid/slave.

]]> By: Cammie http://www.survivalistchronicles.com/06/should-a-man-refuse-to-do-all-of-the-maintenance-around-the-house/comment-page-1/#comment-1876 Cammie Thu, 25 Feb 2010 03:00:32 +0000 http://www.survivalistchronicles.com/06/should-a-man-refuse-to-do-all-of-the-maintenance-around-the-house/#comment-1876 There are no Men Chores or Woman Chores . Everyone works together to do all that must be done to run a family and a home. This is not 1940.Wake up. There are no Men Chores or Woman Chores .
Everyone works together to do all that must be done to run a family and a home.
This is not 1940.Wake up.

]]> By: Brittany S http://www.survivalistchronicles.com/06/should-a-man-refuse-to-do-all-of-the-maintenance-around-the-house/comment-page-1/#comment-1875 Brittany S Sun, 21 Feb 2010 18:48:33 +0000 http://www.survivalistchronicles.com/06/should-a-man-refuse-to-do-all-of-the-maintenance-around-the-house/#comment-1875 First of all, I don't know the complete situation, but in my house, I have to do pretty much everything because my husband is not mechanically inclined one iota. The only thing he almost ever does is throw on a load of dishes maybe twice a week. We have two kids. One is a newborn that needs mommy to hold her all the time. I feel like if I don't get some help, I'm going to either A. let things accumulate while he plays his video games or B. leave. I get sick and tired of having to do everything! Ive even had a job longer than he has in the past two years and Ive been pregnant almost the whole time! I'm also going back to work before he can find another job. Talk about doing everything! That's just being selfish and lazy. Look at time constraints. Look at what a person is physically able to do, and don't forget; I know everybody doesn't want to spend all of their time cleaning, but if you got it clean and kept it clean, it would take minimal upkeep if you did a little each day. It takes two to keep a house running smoothly unless you are the only one in it! :) First of all, I don’t know the complete situation, but in my house, I have to do pretty much everything because my husband is not mechanically inclined one iota. The only thing he almost ever does is throw on a load of dishes maybe twice a week. We have two kids. One is a newborn that needs mommy to hold her all the time. I feel like if I don’t get some help, I’m going to either A. let things accumulate while he plays his video games or B. leave. I get sick and tired of having to do everything! Ive even had a job longer than he has in the past two years and Ive been pregnant almost the whole time! I’m also going back to work before he can find another job. Talk about doing everything! That’s just being selfish and lazy. Look at time constraints. Look at what a person is physically able to do, and don’t forget; I know everybody doesn’t want to spend all of their time cleaning, but if you got it clean and kept it clean, it would take minimal upkeep if you did a little each day. It takes two to keep a house running smoothly unless you are the only one in it! :)

]]> By: mela m http://www.survivalistchronicles.com/06/should-a-man-refuse-to-do-all-of-the-maintenance-around-the-house/comment-page-1/#comment-1874 mela m Sat, 20 Feb 2010 09:38:49 +0000 http://www.survivalistchronicles.com/06/should-a-man-refuse-to-do-all-of-the-maintenance-around-the-house/#comment-1874 Wow! Someone may need some serious effective communication with his partner..But other than that I will tell you what my hubby and I do....We've compromised by designating specific chores to eachother....We decided to do this because, my husband does not like housework at all so I gave him simpler tasks to do i.e. dishes twice a week and sweeping the floors. I also ask that he keeps up with his own stuff. Make sure his laundry is on his own side of the room instead of everywhere else..I still do the majority of the housework but his part does help...and as long as he helps maintain and try not to be messy...it all works out..Oh....And on days he does the dishes..I take out the trash....I **** it but I do it.Because you know what? We both live in this house and we both have to do our part to maintain it.The car doesn't need to be fixed as often as house chores need to be done and frankly, we have a mechanic for that. So sit down with your wife put together a plan of what you're willing to do..Maybe you find that you'd rather sweep than do the dishes or you rather fold the laundry and put it away instead of separating them and putting them to wash.But by all means, stop whining about it because it all has to be done. Unless you want to live in filth. Wow! Someone may need some serious effective communication with his partner..But other than that I will tell you what my hubby and I do….We’ve compromised by designating specific chores to eachother….We decided to do this because, my husband does not like housework at all so I gave him simpler tasks to do i.e. dishes twice a week and sweeping the floors. I also ask that he keeps up with his own stuff. Make sure his laundry is on his own side of the room instead of everywhere else..I still do the majority of the housework but his part does help…and as long as he helps maintain and try not to be messy…it all works out..Oh….And on days he does the dishes..I take out the trash….I **** it but I do it.Because you know what? We both live in this house and we both have to do our part to maintain it.The car doesn’t need to be fixed as often as house chores need to be done and frankly, we have a mechanic for that. So sit down with your wife put together a plan of what you’re willing to do..Maybe you find that you’d rather sweep than do the dishes or you rather fold the laundry and put it away instead of separating them and putting them to wash.But by all means, stop whining about it because it all has to be done. Unless you want to live in filth.

]]> By: tejokid http://www.survivalistchronicles.com/06/should-a-man-refuse-to-do-all-of-the-maintenance-around-the-house/comment-page-1/#comment-1873 tejokid Fri, 19 Feb 2010 17:58:34 +0000 http://www.survivalistchronicles.com/06/should-a-man-refuse-to-do-all-of-the-maintenance-around-the-house/#comment-1873 As long as you view any relationship as being an adversarial situation, there is no equal regardless of who does what around the house. Viewing these women and girls who watch tv as bitchy nags has no relationship to the first part of your question--a man has better things to do than keep score because he will be fully invested in a loving relationship. Take a look at your dad's relationship(s), then take a look at your own--have you adopted an old me-Tarzan-you-Jane mentality, or are you ready to evolve? Maturity involves the ability to care about another person as much as you care about yourself, and that applies to both genders. Your average ***** also has a viewpoint--namely that she'd prefer life with a Golden Retriever than a Doberman. If you're truly interested in finding a middle ground, then sit down with the woman in your life, list all the household chores that need to be done, figure up the actual time involved to do them, and start dividing them up equitably. When problems loom large, the first place we need to look is in the mirror. As long as you view any relationship as being an adversarial situation, there is no equal regardless of who does what around the house. Viewing these women and girls who watch tv as bitchy nags has no relationship to the first part of your question–a man has better things to do than keep score because he will be fully invested in a loving relationship. Take a look at your dad’s relationship(s), then take a look at your own–have you adopted an old me-Tarzan-you-Jane mentality, or are you ready to evolve? Maturity involves the ability to care about another person as much as you care about yourself, and that applies to both genders. Your average ***** also has a viewpoint–namely that she’d prefer life with a Golden Retriever than a Doberman. If you’re truly interested in finding a middle ground, then sit down with the woman in your life, list all the household chores that need to be done, figure up the actual time involved to do them, and start dividing them up equitably. When problems loom large, the first place we need to look is in the mirror.

]]> By: David http://www.survivalistchronicles.com/06/should-a-man-refuse-to-do-all-of-the-maintenance-around-the-house/comment-page-1/#comment-1872 David Wed, 17 Feb 2010 19:42:19 +0000 http://www.survivalistchronicles.com/06/should-a-man-refuse-to-do-all-of-the-maintenance-around-the-house/#comment-1872 If you make more money than her, which is usually the case, grab your huevos and refuse to do any housework. If there's no compliance, dump that *****. If you make more money than her, which is usually the case, grab your huevos and refuse to do any housework. If there’s no compliance, dump that *****.

]]> By: TheAnimalinMe http://www.survivalistchronicles.com/06/should-a-man-refuse-to-do-all-of-the-maintenance-around-the-house/comment-page-1/#comment-1871 TheAnimalinMe Tue, 16 Feb 2010 07:51:30 +0000 http://www.survivalistchronicles.com/06/should-a-man-refuse-to-do-all-of-the-maintenance-around-the-house/#comment-1871 First, if you called me a ***** I'd tell you to hit the road,but then maybe its a mutual thing. My hubby works 8-10 hours a day with 1 1/2 to 2 hours to work every day. I'm a working artist out of my studio at home. I can mow the lawn (but my teen does it and husband did it before) and often do it just to give him a break. I also fix the furniture, paint the walls, put in toilets and do all the cleaning. That includes all the other yard work and planting and upkeep. If I need help I ask-He deserves dinner and some peace after so cal traffic but would help more if he is around the house. His job is electric stuff and TV stuff etc-and the computers. I had a neighbor call me Martha Stewart on drugs-I laughed but didn't decide if it was a insult or compliment. Each couple must decide for themselves what works and who does better at what-ultimately-everything in a household is 50-50. So while I scupt or paint in my studio, the wash is going and so is dinner-SEE why he loves me? Plus I look pretty hot in my jeans! But I choose to do this because I love him and am treated with the respect and love that I think I deserve and work for-I give it to him too- perhaps you need to sit down and divide to conquer and stop whinning or calling her a *****. Maybe you both need to change your approach-its worth it! Good luck! First, if you called me a ***** I’d tell you to hit the road,but then maybe its a mutual thing. My hubby works 8-10 hours a day with 1 1/2 to 2 hours to work every day. I’m a working artist out of my studio at home. I can mow the lawn (but my teen does it and husband did it before) and often do it just to give him a break. I also fix the furniture, paint the walls, put in toilets and do all the cleaning. That includes all the other yard work and planting and upkeep. If I need help I ask-He deserves dinner and some peace after so cal traffic but would help more if he is around the house. His job is electric stuff and TV stuff etc-and the computers. I had a neighbor call me Martha Stewart on drugs-I laughed but didn’t decide if it was a insult or compliment. Each couple must decide for themselves what works and who does better at what-ultimately-everything in a household is 50-50. So while I scupt or paint in my studio, the wash is going and so is dinner-SEE why he loves me? Plus I look pretty hot in my jeans! But I choose to do this because I love him and am treated with the respect and love that I think I deserve and work for-I give it to him too- perhaps you need to sit down and divide to conquer and stop whinning or calling her a *****. Maybe you both need to change your approach-its worth it! Good luck!

]]> By: Emerald Jones http://www.survivalistchronicles.com/06/should-a-man-refuse-to-do-all-of-the-maintenance-around-the-house/comment-page-1/#comment-1870 Emerald Jones Mon, 15 Feb 2010 10:00:30 +0000 http://www.survivalistchronicles.com/06/should-a-man-refuse-to-do-all-of-the-maintenance-around-the-house/#comment-1870 Sounds like you have your answer. Sounds like you have your answer.

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